It was just yesterday that my friends were telling me that I was inciting ladies against them. I got home and this was what was in the news:
Military Man Kills Wife in Kiambu.
An army officer has been arrested in connection with the murder of his wife at their home in Nthindigua, Kiambu County. The officer surrendered himself at Kiambu police station. Captain Harrison Mugo is said to have admitted killing Mary Kagure following a domestic quarrel.
Tell me, my brothers, is this what you want to see everytime in the news? I am only trying to enlighten the beautiful ladies about the dangers they are prone to face!
THIS IS A VERY SAD STORY!
I actually shed tears when I heard about this saga.
Phew! I thank God that semester is over. It had its own share of challenges...the biggest challenge being staying with a stranger for a whole semester. Staying with a new face, however, enlightened my eyes: I was told that "I like being in control and that I was trying to control my room-mate and my neighbours". These words of enlightment came from my room-mate in a not-so-friendly manner. But come to think of it, on a positive note > maybe being in control of your environment is not so bad after all. It implies that you are responsible and that you can manage things on your own. It could also mean that I am a dictator in the making (hahahaa), a great person in the making, like Muamar Gaddafi. It could also mean that I need to move out and stay on my own, at a place where there's no person to control. Mmmmh... I think I will give a thought of that.
On another note, I like home. I know my stay at home is short-lived and I have to enjoy it while it lasts. Thats exactly what I am doing.
On my arrival at home, I realised that some of the "mama mbogas" that I am used to were missing. Upon further enquiry about their where-abouts, I realised that the in-thing at my village is going to USA or UK un-announced. Apparently, these mamas decided to abandon their annoying husbands and disappear to diaspora. I particularly liked the story where the husband received a call from his wife who was already at the US. The wife was informing him of her decision to leave him because of his constant battering. I think the women from my village are now enlightened...although they took too long to leave.
I am proud of all the women that have decided to leave their aliens.
They are all super women!
Well-behaved women seldom make history. That is the truth. The society is bled in such a way that a well-behaved woman can never be successful. A well behave woman, especially in our African culture, has to get married by 21, have more than 5 children and be submissive to her husband. This is a pity, and very sad.
This is how domestic violence starts. A well behaved woman has no job, or career, and consequently has no money. She, therefore, depends on her husband for everything. Her husband pushes her around for his money. She has to stick in her husband's house, even after being battered, because she's a well-behaved woman.
To be a successful woman you cannot afford to be well-behaved. That is why I choose to be badly-behaved. I choose to be successful. I choose to be free, financially free. I choose to be a badly- behaved woman.
How do you define this kind of love? Ladies and g...entlemen is this love or what?????
Mercy - I don’t want my boyfriend to go to jail; I love him
STICHES cover her once beautiful face, while pus seeps from her severely cut ear. Her beauty has been tattered, and she may never look the same again.
Despite all the pain she’s going through, 28-year-old Mercy Ng’uni is a woman in love, ready to forgive the man that almost killed her.
Mercy, a Kanyama resident and a mother of three, narrates how her boyfriend severed her ear and sliced face with a bottle.
“Nothing really happened for him to beat me up like this. He is my boyfriend and sometimes he spends nights at my place,” says Mercy.
Mercy, a hairdresser by profession, narrated that on the fateful day, she knocked off later than her boyfriend name withheld, an issue she suspects may have triggered him to beat her.
“On that day he came home at 18:00 hours and I came 30 minutes later. All was okay, we talked just as usual and he told me he was going to watch a soccer match at a nearby bar. 20 minutes later he came back. I wondered why he was back so early but he told me he couldn’t watch the game,” she says.
“He later told me to prepare his clothes for the following morning and told me he wanted to sleep,” narrated Mercy. “He asked if we had locked the door so that we could go to bed. He later asked for water, and I gave him water as he requested.”
Mercy said the man kept tossing in bed and woke up around 23:00 hours, wanting to go outside as he claimed he was not feeling too well in the house.
“I refused to open the door because it was late. Instead, I opened the window and we started chatting. As we were chatting, we both fell asleep,” says Mercy.
Mercy says around midnight, she felt someone hitting her with a bottle and she woke up thinking they had been attacked.
“I just felt someone hitting me with a bottle and I immediately woke up and screamed that we had been attacked. At this point the bottle had broken and he told me that no one had attacked us and that he was going to kill me,” she says.
Mercy narrates that her boyfriend started cutting her face with the bottle and cut her ear.
“He started cutting my face while telling me that he was going to kill me, I screamed for help but the bedroom door was locked. I managed to grab his hand and that’s how he dropped the bottle.
My daughter then rushed to open the outer door and our landlord broke the bedroom door to rescue me,” she says. Mercy says the landlord took them to the police station where the man was detained and she was taken to the clinic.
“I went to Kanyama clinic but I was told there were no doctors to attend to me and I was referred to the UTH,” she says.
Mercy says after she was attended to at University Teaching Hospital, she returned home only to find her ear on the bed.
“I found my ear on the bed and I put it in the fridge so that I could have it stitched the following day,” she says.
Mercy says the following day she called a medical personnel from a private clinic, who followed her home to stitch the ear, but it could not hold.
“That’s how I lost my ear,” Mercy says.
She says this is the second time her boyfriend has beaten her in the two years that they have been together.
“The first time he beat me up, he bit me on the cheeks. My phone rang at night and as I was about to answer, the line cut and he got suspicious and started biting me on both cheeks. That was the first time ever he behaved violently,” she says.
Mercy says her boyfriend was released from police cell three days after the latest the incident and has been begging for forgiveness.
Despite all she has gone through, Mercy says she is more than willing to forgive him.
“I don’t want him to go to jail; I love him. All I want is for him to assist me financially to acquire good medical attention,” she says.
However, Mercy’s brother Emmanuel just wants her boyfriend to face the law.
“I just want him to face the law. If my sister wants him back, that’s her problem. She should not come running to us next time,” says Emmanuel.
Mercy is just one of the many battered women that suffer silently in the name of love. Many have silently died while protecting ‘criminals’ all in the name.
How do you want to die? At the hands of a ‘loved one’, chose to live for you only have one life – only God should determine when you die but not some lunatic.
Time is now, act now, love yourself now, deliver yourself now, for tomorrow may be too late.
Is this what we want for ourselves? Do you want your kids to witness you being battered? It wouldn't be such a nice experience for them! I have seen this happen (I will visit this in another blogpost in future) and I wouldn't wish it, even to my worst enemy!
Listen and watch video: Listen to the young girl!
Watch this: This girl took a video of herself immediately after the domestic violence ordeal!
Watch it happen live! Watch as this guy verbally & physically beats up his wife while his son records it all on video.
Why should we wait for such a thing to happen? A tree falls on those that are near it! Do not wait for such a disaster to happen! The only way to avoid such a tragedy is simple: KEEP OFF ALL MEN!
I ain't doing this anymore. I can't stand watching my sisters go through this.
Superwomen!
We are superwomen, if you are already in an abusive relationship, move out of it, NOW! You are superwoman! Even when you are a mess, just put on a vest with an "S" on the chest coz you are a superwoman!
They are the only source of all our predicaments! They are aliens sent on earth (by God knows who) from a certain planet to come on earth to humiliate women and make them miserable. It seems they do exactly that which they were sent to do.
Men will mess you up, paralyse you and hinder all your success from coming your way.
I will not give any of these aliens a chance to mess me up! Damn all men!
I was listening to Maina and King'ang'i yesterday. I know I have never been sure whether I want to get married or not. After listening to Maina's conversation with one of the ladies; HELL NO! I ain't going down the aisle. What kind of men do we have in the world?
This lady called Maina yesterday and she was explaining about her marriage situation. She got married to a man who was once a pastor. She gave her all to him. She was a virgin at marriage. After around 5 years of marriage, the husband was no longer a pastor. In fact, he goes to the bar, and spends nights out (> of course with other ladies). In the morning, he comes home drunk and beats her up. To add salt to the sour wound, she recently found out that she is HIV+.
She moved out after finding out about her status. She deeply regrets having gotten married. If she did not get married in the first place, she would be in a high-flying career and HIV-free. She concluded by saying that all men are beasts. They are out to destroy that which God has made beautiful. She was crying on radio as she was explaining the whole story.
I was waiting for a 9 am class as I was listening to all this. I was unable to hold my tears. Why in the world would a normal-thinking human being do all this to a woman he claims to love? Does love really exist? If it did, is this the kind of love that is practiced by men and women that are romantically involved?
After listening to this whole conversation, I vowed to KEEP OFF MEN! All men! I don't know how I will do it but I know I will.
At the beginning of this year, I had this strong feeling that the year would turn out to be an year of greatness, with so many expectations and resolutions.
Now, being September, I think that the year has been good so far. I have even surpassed my goals and my expectations. I honestly give all the glory to God.
We recently resumed to school. It is good, although the beginning of the semester was quite tough, challenging and stressful. It is not, however, as stressful as it is for the freshers. Most of them, about 80% of them do not have on-campus accomodation. These first-years completed high school last year and they have always been under their parents' wings. Now that they are away from home, with no accomodation or HELB; life must be really challenging for them.
Still about school, I was moved from my usual quiet and serene hostel that is so close to everything ( the library, classes and our shopping-spree-place). I was transferred to a hostel that is at the other end of the campus. (It is not like am complaining- its better than staying off-campus). With this new hostel comes a new room-mate.
My new room-mate is in her 3rd year of study. She is good- very friendly and quite reserved. I like her quiet nature> she sometimes makes me guilty about my talkative self.
Enough whining, am glad I am now almost done with school. I can't wait to move out of school and my parents' house so that I may have freedom. Freedom to sleep and wake up when I want to.
