The Worst Pick-Up Line I've Ever Heard

I am a girl and I come across all kinds of funny guys. I always try my best to show them that am not interested at all... but some of them still go ahead to showcase their absurdity.

I often hold back laughter after they prove their questionable reasoning capacity (forgive my language but that's what I feel). I, however, couldn't hold laughter after I heard this:

"Hi! I couldn't help noticing you notice that I noticed you." 

Goodness! Guys, let me give you a hint: Go look for people that are interested. You don't want to embarrass yourself!

Woman + Husband = Validation?

A couple of years ago I recall watching Tyra Banks being interviewed about the tremendous amount of success she has had during the course of her career. The interviewer, who was also a woman, spent the majority of the interview discussing all of the many wonderful things Tyra was able to achieve in the entertainment and fashion industry. The success of America’s Next Top Model, her then self-titled talk show, Tyra, and her stellar supermodel career were all highly praised, leaving me as a viewer in awe of this woman who was able to accomplish so much all before the age of 40. As I continued watching the program, my admiration for Banks grew rapidly; however, it was not until the last few minutes of the interview when my love fest came to an abrupt halt.
The interviewer then asked Tyra if marriage was in her future, for it appeared that with all of her success and accomplishments, her love life still hasn’t quite “gelled”. While I can’t remember exactly what Tyra’s response was, I do remember thinking to myself, “Here we go again!” as a serious eye roll at the television quickly ensued. It appeared that, once again, a beautiful, intelligent, successful woman was about to be pitied for seemingly not having the affection of a man. What the hell?!

I became annoyed by the “romance question”, for I feel that women—and society as a whole—tends take on the notion that a female is not successful unless she has husband. Tyra Banks, who was a world famous supermodel and has created her own production company and has hosted and produced two successful shows, still appears to have failed in the love department just because she has yet to marry. My question is this: Since when has a marriage became the deciding factor of a woman being happy and/or successful? Who in the hell said that a woman received the ultimate stamp of validation she gained the title of “Mrs.” in front of her name? This is what pisses me off.

I think our society, although forward thinking and making progress in women’s rights, is still a bit antiquated in the fact that it appears a woman must be romantically connected to someone in order to be viewed as anyone. It seems that regardless of how successful a woman becomes or how many accomplishments she achieves, she is not deemed as “having it all” unless she is married. Now, a woman who decides to marry and have children but chooses not to have a career is viewed as noble individual, for motherhood, quite arguably, is considered the hardest yet most rewarding job on the planet. But women who have the great career but no husband or family are deemed to be lacking in an area of their life and, in my opinion, society views them as secretly being unhappy or unfulfilled. I think that old fashioned thoughts such as these not only hurt women, but it is also a negative ideology learned by young girls.

There are thousands, if not millions, of adolescent girls who navigate their way through middle school and high school feeling that they are not good enough, pretty enough or desirable simply because none of their male counterparts have yet to take an interest in them. This means that girls as early as age 11 if not sooner, are acquiring characteristics of low self-esteem because they look for some random boy to validate their entire existence. The Tyra Banks interview is indicative of this same concept. It appears that even when young girls grow up and become successful business women, they are still viewed as possibly sub-par if they do not have a male counterpart. Such ideologies must stop ASAP!!!
Now, I do realize that it is a completely innate for people to desire companionship. I, by no means, am against marriage. I wholeheartedly respect the institution of marriage and believe that family is a beautiful thing. However, to infer that a woman, regardless of how accomplished she is, will not be fulfilled or will never “have it all” unless she has a husband, is completely ridiculous. One’s happiness and validation is solely dependent upon themselves—not a man, a marriage or even children, but only themselves. We cannot have women believing that marriage is the answer to gaining joy if they deem their lives to be unfulfilled. It is unfair for a woman, or anyone for that matter, to place their happiness upon any individual other than themselves.

 Marriage is two complete and happy people coming together to complement each other, not supplement each other. And if it so happens that a woman decides that marriage is not for her, that does not mean that she will be unhappy, or die a sad life alone with a house full of cats for companions. Women should take charge of their lives and not feel that they need a male companion to enjoy it. Dating and romance is beautiful, but if a woman is unhappy with whom she is, then it does not matter who comes into her life, for she will always feel unfulfilled until she personally changes her attitude.

Women should be taught, as early as childhood, that a relationship is not what validates their existence, but setting goals and taking the necessary steps towards achieving them is what should give them a sense of fulfillment. Tyra Banks is an excellent role model for women and young girls everywhere. She should be praised for what she has been able to achieve on her own. If she does decide to marry, that’s great, but if she decides to never marry, she still will be the epitome of success. Marriage and relationships are a beautiful thing and should be celebrated, but it’s imperative that women and young girls know they are successful and invaluable whether they have the title of Mrs. or Miss.


Thanks,

Tanesha Hankerson

Worthy

 Another poem for God and I.

Oh my soul, you have not been left alone.
For He counted us worthy, so let's be worthy!
Just trust and know you're strong enough to carry on.
He counted us worthy, so let's be worthy! Oh my soul.

Your name is written in the Book of Life.
Keep walking in dominion and His might.
You serve the Son, you serve the One
Who knew you long before you'd begun.
And you are worthy, you are worthy!
Go ahead and encourage yourself.
Look inside and draw from the well.
The water flows and Heaven knows
That you can't make it on your own.
He said you're worthy, so let's be worthy!


So a man thinketh, so does he believe.
Faith is not about what you see.
It doesn't matter how you feel.
His Word is right, His love is real.
He said you're worthy, so let's be worthy!
Don't worry, be happy and just say
The light is gonna lead me all the way.
Speak with authority and see
That even your words are victory.
So say you're worthy, say you're worthy!

For God so loved the world
He gave His only Son's life
So that two milleniums later
We could go walking in that Light.
So that nothing and no one
Could separate us from that right.
Let's be worthy, let's be worthy!

 He has made us worthy!And we will walk in Heaven's glory
For we know the King is soon to come
And we will sing a song of triumph
To the Holy One.
Lord You are worthy. You alone are worthy. 

I lift my head. I lift my hands.
I lift my heart. Now I understand.
You counted us worthy, so let's be worthy!


And oh my soul, you have not been left alone.
For He counted us worthy, so let's be worthy!
Just trust and know you're strong enough to carry on.
He counted us worthy, so let's be worthy!

The Drunk at Church

A man sobering up from the night before is sitting through the Sunday sermon, finding it long and boring. Still feeling hung over and tired, he finally nods off.
       
The pastor has been watching him all along, noticing his apparent hangover and is disgusted. At the end of the sermon, the preacher decides to make an    example of him.
      
      He says to his congregation, "All those wishing to have a place in heaven, please stand."
      
      The whole room stands up except, of course, the sleeping man.
      
      Then the preacher says even more loudly, "And he who would like to find a place in hell please STAND UP!"
      
      The weary man catching only the last part groggily stands up, only to find that he's the only one standing.
      
      Confused and embarrassed he says, "I don't know what we're voting on here, but it sure seems like you and me are the only ones standing for it!"


Hahaha.....

Watch what you say or think!

Mildred, the church gossip and self-appointed arbiter of the church's morals,
kept sticking her nose in the other members' private lives.
Church members were unappreciative of her activities, but feared her enough
to maintain their silence.

She made a mistake, however, when she accused George, a new member,
of being an alcoholic after she saw his pickup truck parked in front of the
town's only bar one afternoon.

She commented to George and others that everyone seeing it there would
know what he was doing.

George, a man of few words, stared at her for a moment and just walked
away. He didn't explain, defend, or deny; he said nothing.

Later that evening, George quietly parked his pickup in front of Mildred's house...
and left it there all night!


Thanks, Elvira.