From Nkem, I learned how to love and to be loved deeply. I have never experienced such kind of deep love in my life before. It is the kind of love that I cannot explain. Such love can only be experienced. It can only be felt.
I learned to connect with Nkem so deeply such that I would feel when Nkem is not okay without Nkem telling me that they are not okay... and I would call Nkem at such a moment and indeed they would let me know that they are going through something. Oh! It was deep; deeper than deep. I just cannot explain.
Beyond the deep feelings for love and affection, I learned to love through being selfless.
I learned to consider my partner's interests when I am away; to buy things with my partner in mind. Before Nkem, I would just go on a trip or excursion and return as I went. Upon spending time with Nkem, I learned to carry something home for my partner, or for both of us. I also learned to mind my partner's interests and feelings.
From Nkem, I learned to be intentional about my partner's interests: what does my partner like? What can I do to make my partner happy? I learned to get out of my way to make my partner happy. This means cooking my partner's favourite meal, handling a task for my partner (probably something they do not like), or just doing something random to make my partner's life easy.
Nkem loved me, this I know. I loved Nkem. Deeply.
