NGAHIKA NGAI ENDA!

I recently got a call from a certain girl that I schooled with. She was a year ahead of me in primary school.

She insisted that I should get married and that marriage was the best thing that ever happened to her. She was on a quest to convince me that the earlier one gets married, the better. She even did the Math to explain that it’s very important to have children early. As if that was not enough, she also insisted that I should lower my bar a little bit and that getting married now is better before I do further studies… because that would intimidate all my potential husbands.

She acknowledged that I have not had a very good opinion of men and explained that not all men are the same. Some men, like her husband, are good. She completed her call by telling me that she would pray for me to get a husband.

She is not the first one to attack me on the issue of marriage. Others are overly concerned about me not being alone… it’s like am doomed when I am alone.

The craziest thing that has ever happened to me was getting an offer to be a clandestine, or even to be an official second wife!  

My thoughts:

Although I have positively changed my opinion on marriage, thanks to God and Alecia, I absolutely don’t understand why people have been attacking me on the issue of my marriage.

Is marriage an emergency? Am I getting married to make others happy? Am I getting married to fit in the society?

First of all, if a man is intimidated by me, then he’s not the man I am interested in. Secondly, I will not lower my bar. As a matter of fact, I will raise it even higher.

God holds my destiny and He knows who my husband is. He has my life and future in His hands.

I know that He has good plans for me and He constantly reminds me about it in Jeremiah 29:11:

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Therefore, what others say, imply, or think, I am least moved. 

Finally, but most importantly, JESUS COMMANDS MY DESTINY!

All I could do was cry!

I heard church bells ringing, I heard a choir singing

I saw my love walk down the aisle

On her finger, he placed a ring

I saw them holding hands

She was standing there with my man

I heard them promise "'Til death do us part"

Each word was a pain in my heart

All I could do, all I could do was cry

All I could do was cry

I was losing the man that I love

And all I could do was cry

And now the wedding is over

Rice, rice has been thrown over their heads

For them life has just begun

But mine is ending

All, all I could do, all I could do was cry

All I could do was cry

I was losing the man that I love

And all I could do was cry 

Etta James 

MY DESIRE

Psalms 27:4

 One thing I ask of the LORD, this is what I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple.

I will wait for you!

To my future husband,

I will wait for you.

And I will know you

because when you speak,

I will be reminded of Solomon’s wisdom,

your ability to lead will remind me of Moses,

your faith will remind me of Abraham,

your confidence in God’s Word will remind me of Daniel,

your inspiration will remind me of Paul,

your heart for God will remind me of David,

your attention to detail will remind me of Noah,

your integrity will remind me of Joseph,

and your ability to abandon your own will, will remind me of the disciples,

but your ability to love selflessly and unconditionally will remind me of Christ.

But I won’t need to identify you by any special Matthews

or any special marks,

’cause His Word will be tatted all over your heart.

And you will know me,

and you will find me,

where

the boldness of Esther

meets the warm closeness of Ruth,

where the hospitality of Lydia

is aligned with the submission of Mary,

which is engulfed in the tears of a praying Hanna.

I will be the one,

drenched in Proverbs 31,

waiting for you.

I love you even before I meet you.

Your future wife,

Judy

Thanks Janette...ikz

How to Pray

Tell God all that is in your heart, as one unloads one's heart, its pleasures and its pains, to a dear friend. 

Tell God your troubles, that God may comfort you; tell God your joys, that God may sober them; tell God your longings, that God may purify them; tell God your dislikes, that God may help you conquer them; talk to God of your temptations, that God may shield you from them.

Show God the wounds of your heart, that God may heal them. If you thus pour out all your weaknesses, needs, troubles, there will be no lack of what to say.

 Talk out of the abundance of the heart, without consideration say just what you think. Blessed are they who attain to such familiar, unreserved intercourse with God. 

Thanks --Francois Fenelon

Am praying for you!

Dear future husband,

I’ve always dreamed we’d find each other in the most unlikely way. I dreamed you’d come at a time when I least expected it. We’d connect in a way I never have before, you’d invest the time it takes to know me inside and out. We’d share similar beliefs in God and faith, and you’d respect my decision to save sex for marriage.

I’ve recently met someone and I’m praying it’s you!

Love,
Your Future Wife

Vision and Submission

Ladies,

If he doesn't have a vision, he isn't worth your submission.

If he suppresses your vision, he isn't worth your submission.

Don't marry him if he doesn't have a vision and/or if he suppresses your vision.