Another one for you!

Dear Future Husband,

I don’t want to kiss a thousand frogs before I meet you. I don’t want to throw myself to just anyone anymore, because no one can compare to you.  I’m not perfect, and I haven’t always treasured what was supposed to be meant for us. I haven’t always been the wisest when it comes to my heart and my temple, but I’ve changed my old ways. Now, I’m holding my body, heart,and soul closely, and I’m willing to wait. Why? Because I love you, and I realize that you are worth the wait. I promise not to let my selfishness get in the way of that any longer.

Sometimes I wonder what you look like, and pray that God would give me a sign. He works in mysterious ways, but not how we think it ought to be. I asked him to show you to me a certain way, but I know every love story is different, and the one He’s writing for us will be unique. I wonder, do you ever think about me? Do you ask God a thousand questions like I do, like where we’ll meet, what’s the first thing we’ll say to each other, and how we’ll know it’s His will for us to be married? Whatever He decides, I can’t wait to meet you, and hope you feel the same way about me too.

Love,

Your future wife,

 Judy

Lessons in Relationships

I sincerely apologize to my ardent readers for my failure make updates in this blog.

I have been doing a lot and going through a lot, mostly stuff to do with work, school and relationships.

Most importantly, I thank God for the gift of life, a sound mind and people.

For today, I will discuss the few lessions that I have learnt from relationships. Most of the things that I have learnt have just been confirmations of quotes made by older people. Here are the lessons:


1. You should never lower your standards to accomodate anyone. As a matter of fact, you should focus on maintaining them or raising them even higher. 

2. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. 

3.  Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.

4. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. 

5.  Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

6. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

7. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

The most important of all these lessons is: Be right with God, always, and purpose to be happy. Make an intentional choice of happiness.

 

Don't forget that if one could download a software for free, no one would buy it! This is synonymous to the fact that no one would buy a cow if they have been getting free milk.

 

I love you guys! Thank you!

O How I Love Jesus

 O How I Love Jesus


There is a name I love to hear
I love to sing its worth
It sounds like music in my ear
The sweetest name on Earth

O how I love Jesus
O how I love Jesus
O how I love Jesus
Because He first loved me

It tells me of a Saviors love
Who died to set me free
It tells me of His precious blood
The sinners perfect plea

It tells of one whose loving heart
Can fell my deepest woe
Who in each sorrow hears a part
That none can bear below

Trip to Tanzania: Photos

Late last month, I accompanied my friend Alecia and her daughter -Bianca to Tanzania for two women conferences.

Here are some of the photos:

 This is a photo of the place we were staying in Morogoro.












These two Maasai girls ran to us and hugged us when we got to Maasai village. It was so sweet :)















 Alecia, Bianca and I at the Indian Ocean in Dar es Salaam.


 

Hiking

More photos while hiking

This was a photo we took just before I left for the airport.

NGAHIKA NGAI ENDA!

I recently got a call from a certain girl that I schooled with. She was a year ahead of me in primary school.

She insisted that I should get married and that marriage was the best thing that ever happened to her. She was on a quest to convince me that the earlier one gets married, the better. She even did the Math to explain that it’s very important to have children early. As if that was not enough, she also insisted that I should lower my bar a little bit and that getting married now is better before I do further studies… because that would intimidate all my potential husbands.

She acknowledged that I have not had a very good opinion of men and explained that not all men are the same. Some men, like her husband, are good. She completed her call by telling me that she would pray for me to get a husband.

She is not the first one to attack me on the issue of marriage. Others are overly concerned about me not being alone… it’s like am doomed when I am alone.

The craziest thing that has ever happened to me was getting an offer to be a clandestine, or even to be an official second wife!  

My thoughts:

Although I have positively changed my opinion on marriage, thanks to God and Alecia, I absolutely don’t understand why people have been attacking me on the issue of my marriage.

Is marriage an emergency? Am I getting married to make others happy? Am I getting married to fit in the society?

First of all, if a man is intimidated by me, then he’s not the man I am interested in. Secondly, I will not lower my bar. As a matter of fact, I will raise it even higher.

God holds my destiny and He knows who my husband is. He has my life and future in His hands.

I know that He has good plans for me and He constantly reminds me about it in Jeremiah 29:11:

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Therefore, what others say, imply, or think, I am least moved. 

Finally, but most importantly, JESUS COMMANDS MY DESTINY!

All I could do was cry!

I heard church bells ringing, I heard a choir singing

I saw my love walk down the aisle

On her finger, he placed a ring

I saw them holding hands

She was standing there with my man

I heard them promise "'Til death do us part"

Each word was a pain in my heart

All I could do, all I could do was cry

All I could do was cry

I was losing the man that I love

And all I could do was cry

And now the wedding is over

Rice, rice has been thrown over their heads

For them life has just begun

But mine is ending

All, all I could do, all I could do was cry

All I could do was cry

I was losing the man that I love

And all I could do was cry 

Etta James 

MY DESIRE

Psalms 27:4

 One thing I ask of the LORD, this is what I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple.