I recently got a call from a certain girl that I schooled
with. She was a year ahead of me in primary school.
She insisted that I should get married and that marriage was
the best thing that ever happened to her. She was on a quest to convince me that
the earlier one gets married, the better. She even did the Math to explain that
it’s very important to have children early. As if that was not enough, she also
insisted that I should lower my bar a little bit and that getting married now
is better before I do further studies… because that would intimidate all my
potential husbands.
She acknowledged that I have not had a very good opinion of
men and explained that not all men are the same. Some men, like her husband,
are good. She completed her call by telling me that she would pray for me to
get a husband.
She is not the first one to attack me on the issue of
marriage. Others are overly concerned about me not being alone… it’s like am
doomed when I am alone.
The craziest thing that has ever happened to me was getting
an offer to be a clandestine, or even to be an official second wife!
My thoughts:
Although I have positively changed my opinion on marriage,
thanks to God and Alecia, I absolutely don’t understand why people have been
attacking me on the issue of my marriage.
Is marriage an emergency? Am I getting married to make
others happy? Am I getting married to fit in the society?
First of all, if a man is intimidated by me, then he’s not
the man I am interested in. Secondly, I will not lower my bar. As a matter of
fact, I will raise it even higher.
God holds my destiny and He knows who my husband is. He has
my life and future in His hands.
I know that He has good plans for me and He constantly reminds me about it in Jeremiah 29:11:
For I know the
plans I have for you,” declares the Lord,
“plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Therefore, what others say, imply, or think, I am least
moved.
Finally, but most importantly, JESUS COMMANDS MY
DESTINY!
